A Break from the Small Stuff...

Gentlemen, I decided to take a small detour from the small stuff to look at physical fitness. This months Men's Health is off the chart. If you don't subscribe go to your local library and see if they have it or just go read it at the bookstore or your local GIANT! :)

My favorite editor has done it again by posting a great editoral. David Zinczenko has written an articled title "Discomfort Zone" and in it he says, "Skill, Drive, and Determination are like Viruses -- They're passed on from person to person." Are you challenged by others who succeed in life or are you immoblized and negative in result of being with them? We should view those who KNOW in such as way as to learn from them, be inspired by them, not jealous and bitter. Look for those who are in the race, running, and get next to them and charge forward with them.

David goes on to say that the #1 healthest place for Men is Fremont California..."People are doing things here. Everyone is going somewhere, with a purpose. You have to walk fast to keep up...In a town like Fremont, you can't help but rub up against the healthy, the ambitious, the driven. Sooo make sure you visit there, maybe you'll like it! :)

Well fellas until we meet again, PEACE!

Let Go of the Idea that Gentle, Relaxed People Can't Be Superachievers

Has it been that long? Well, I think it is time I get back in the game. Picking up where I left off, have you been sweating the small stuff lately? If so, here is another great lesson from Dr. Carlson:

Do you feel hurried? Frightened? Overly Competitive? Maybe it is your perception of life. Do you believe you need to keep moving to be successful? Effective? if you were to slow down the pace that you will lose your competitive edge? Your not alone by thinking this way, look around you.

Dr. Carlson says that "You can put this fear to rest by realizing the opposite is actually true. Fearful, frantic thinking takes an enormous amount of energy and drains the creativity and motivation from our lives.

The answers is this: When you have what you want (inner peace), you are less distracted by your wants, needs, desires, and concerns. It's thus easier to concentrate, forcus, achieve your goals, and to give back to others.

Take time and stop for about 30 mins, sit still and quite, ask yourself the question: "What do I need to have inner peace." Once you have answered that question then you will be on your way to achieving what it is you desire to be successful at life.

Peace with Imperfection

Well I told you I would be back, and here I am! :) Are you a perfectionist? Well the second thing Dr. Carlson talks to us about is making peace with our imperfections. Here are a few things he said:

"I've yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other. Whenever we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is, we are, almost by definition, engaged in a losing battle. Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what's wrong with something and our need to fix it. When we are zeroed in on what's wrong, it implies that we are dissatisfied discontent...." He continues on and says: "The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. Gently remind yourself that life is okay the way it is, right now. In the absence of your judgment, everything would be fine. As you begin to eliminate your need for perfection in all areas of your life, you'll begin to discover the perfection in life itself."

Sooo do you think you have the capacity to comprehend what he is talking about? Do you think you will be able to have peace while you are still imperfect? Can you admit it? Try to find some time to think this through, I would love to hear your thoughts....Let me know! :)

Small Stuff

Hello all! It has been way to long for this, but I am back. Just to catch you up: I have completed my assignment with the government and I am now self-employed with Infoition News Services. I am excited about this venture and look forward to working very hard at the business. As I was rearranging some stuff in a little room in my house I came across a book that I had read before and decided to just jump through the pages a bit. Well I stopped on Chapter 1. This book helped shape some of my views on life and as a result I have found that I can be more relax than I used to be. Wanna know what book I am talking about??? hmmm???

"Don't Sweat the small stuff...!" -- cause its all small stuff. Chapter one is just about that. What is small stuff? People driving up fast behind you flashing their lights so they can get on? The people at the electronic kyosis that have no clue how to use them? That off the wall comment by your friends? Those small group members who just can't show up on time? Yup, its all small stuff in the big scheme of things. Dr. Carlson in chapter one says this: "Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren't really that big a deal. We focus on little problems and concerns and blow them way out of proportion.... SO many people spend so much of their life energy, "sweating the small stuff" that they completely lose touch with the MAGIC and BEAUTY of life. When you commit to working toward this goal you will find that you will have far more energy to be kinder and gentler (those are by the way fruits of the Spirit. Gal 5:22)

"Whats that got to do with me?!" you might ask? Everything, it is my desire that you will become more and more improved, polished, and successful in every endeavor you set your heart to. Thanks for reading and I will be back soon with more....

Communication is Key

Why do we communicate?
     1. To Create a Positive feeling or Amplify a Postive feeling we are already having.
     2. Get rid of a negative feeling
     3. Create a new result

Why do we want to do the above?  Because we want to feel good! There are a couple things we must do:
    1. We need to communicate to ourselves first more effectively, then we can communicate   
     better to other people.
    2. If we are going to communicate well with others, we can't do that by making them
    wrong/attacking them and telling them how screwed up they are.

Core beliefs about people are key:
    1. Do not Judge people/Do not attack people - This destroys communication.
    2. Never question the intent of a person (you can question behaviors but not intent).
    3. People are not their Behavoirs.
    4. There are always two sides to views on life.

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself for a reality check:

     1. How do I communicate when I am stressed?
     2. How do I get leverage when I don't get what I want?
     3. How do I communicate well when I am stressed?
     4. How can I communicate better in the future?
     

All of this information was provided by a series called "Passion for Living" by Anthony Robbins and this is just the tip of the iceberg. You can pick a copy up from your  local library (get it on audio) and you can listen on your drive to and from work. May your communication improve each day. 

Finances

Hello Gentlemen, how are you today? Weekends come and go so fast. Well as I commented in an earlier post I want to encourage you in the 5 Key areas of life and this posting is designed to encourage you in the area of Finances.

* Do you know where you are financially? Have you taken your financial temperture so to speak?

I want to ask you to do just that. Take some time this next week to go through your Assets, Liabilities, Expenses, and Income. IF the majority of your money is in Expenses: You are living like a poor man. IF the majority of your money is in Expenses and Liabilities: You are living like a middle class man. BUT if the majority of you money is in Assets and Income: You are living like a Rich man.

www.richdad.com is a great place to get stated to getting yourself and your financial house in order. If you have time, visit your local library and pick up the following books:

Rich Dad, Poor Dad Robert Kiyosaki
Think and Grow Rich Napolean Hill

Please pass this information on to your guys so that we can all be healthy in all aspects of life.

Misc stuff

Hey guys how goes it? Well check this out, remember I was telling you all about how I was going into business for myself? Well I am trying to reduce my cost of living because as everyone knows when starting a start up you dont have much cash flow...well a good friend of mines mother gave me a car! 1994 Ford Taurus and it is in great shape, well almost I had to take it in for a checkup since it had been sitting a year. Well I did and now the baby purrrs like a kitty. If you ever need your car fixed I am telling you the best place on earth! All Tune and Lube in Fairfax; website: www.alltuneandlubefairfax.com. Tom and Tim are great and will take excellent care of you.

Well that is it for now,,,have fun!